2013: July, August, September

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We had a reunion with all of Matt’s family in Vermont over the Fourth of July.

We had several wonderful sails with my parents in their seaside town in Massachusetts.

Grace, Whit and I took our fourth annual trip to Legoland.

Grace and Whit both went to sleepaway camp.  I cried as we drove away, but maybe not for the reason you think.

Whit’s godmother, one of my dearest friends came to visit on her way back to Beijing.

We spent a week as a family on Lake Champlain, a tradition that has come to mean an enormous amount to us.

My favorite post: It’s Not All Shiny

My favorite quote (of this season and, very possibly, of all):

“Life gives us what we need when we need it,” she said.  “Receiving what it gives us is a whole other thing.”

– Pam Houston, In My Next Life

2013: April, May, June

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The Boston Marathon bombings affected us all, triggering both fear and fierce pride.

Whit started playing Little League for the first year.  His team, the Giants, had an undistinguished record but a whole lot of heart.

We had a great day at Plimouth Plantation on Memorial Day.

We marked the end of second and fourth grades, and I took the children on a surprise trip to Canobie Lake Park to celebrate the first day of summer.

Over a weekend in June we celebrated my father’s birthday, with his wife, both of his children and all four of his grandchildren around a table.

My favorite post: Inheritance

My favorite quote:

Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror.
Just keep going.  No feeling is final.
Don’t let yourself lose me.

Nearby is the country they call life.
You will know it by its seriousness.

Give me your hand.

– Rainer Maria Rilke

2013: January, February, March

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Whit turned eight.  We celebrated with a small party: a trip to the batting cages, pizza, and Lego-shaped cupcakes.

I had a spinal tap.  I do not recommend.

Whit played with his hockey team on the ice during a Bruins game.  This was an enormous thrill for all.

We had a marvelous family trip to Washington DC.

It snowed.  A whole lot.

We celebrated Easter at a place that’s holy for our family: a deserted, wind-swept beach outside of Boston that we love best off-season and empty.

My favorite post from these months, about an evergreen theme, the endless, begin-again effort to be present in my own life: Tears at Hockey

My favorite quote from this season:

Every moment in life is absolutely itself. That’s all we have. There is nothing other than this present moment; there is no past, there is no future; there is nothing but this. So when we don’t pay attention to every little this, we miss the whole thing.

And the contents of this can be anything. This can be straightening our sitting mats, chopping an onion, talking to one we don’t want to talk to. It doesn’t matter what the contents of the moment are; each moment is absolute. That’s all there is, and all there ever will be.

~ Charlotte Joko Beck

2013: the alphabet

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In 2009 and 2011 I wrote posts titled The Alphabet of Right Now.  It seems fitting to do so for 2013, with both reflection and anticipation in my mind, from a place of both gratitude and hope.

Aquaphor.  It’s my duct tape, the solution to everything, and can hold the universe together if necessary.  Chapped lips, dry skin, scabs or scrapes: put some aquaphor on it.

Books. Reading them is a central preoccupation of mine and writing one remains a dearly-held dream.  I love the community I’m a part of at Great New Books and look forward to our sharing our favorite books of 2013 soon.  I’ll keep my favorite a surprise until then!

Coffee.  I drink it in the morning with coconut milk and sugar.  I make it the night before by about 6, and set it to brew in the morning.  It’s one of the highlights of my day.

Divergent.  Adored this series by Veronica Roth and can’t wait to see the movie of the first book, which is out in March.

Eleven and Eight. How is it even possible that Grace is eleven and Whit is eight?

Family. The one I came from and the one I made.  The family that taught me how to fly and the family that taught me how to land.  I love you all.

Galapagos. We are going for spring break and I cannot wait.  It’s all part of my newfound commitment to helping Grace and Whit see the world.

Harry Potter.  I’m in the midst of my third complete reading of the series, and I’m as enchanted as ever.  I love Harry, Hermione, and, most of all, Dumbledore, as well as everything about the world JK Rowling created .

Instagram. Love, love, love.

Juice. I make green juice most mornings, but my favorite combination is ginger and grapefruit.

Kids. (I actually dislike the word “kids,” and prefer “children,” but seemed like a good one for K!). I am without words in the face of all I cannot express.  There’s no question that my subject chose me.

Light.  Every year I’m more aware of the light.  I notice the shifting texture and specific characteristics of each season’s light, and take endless photographs trying to capture it. I never can.

Morning.  I’ve always been a morning person, and this is just becoming more and more true as I get older.  I’m pretty sure that soon I’ll be regularly waking up at dawn.  I like to run then, and read, and watch the sun come up.

Nut allergy. Whit is allergic to tree nuts.  It’s not something we choose to dwell on, and most of the time it’s frankly not a big deal.  But now and then (this summer) we receive a reminder that his allergy is serious and can be life-threatening.

Organ transplantation.  My father-in-law had a kidney transplant on October 27th.  This followed a heart transplant on November 26, 2002.  He is extraordinary and we are all immensely grateful.  When I stop to think about the outrageous miracle that is the fact of someone else’s heart beating in his chest I am without words. Please consider being an organ donor.  There is no greater gift.

Pals. (“F” was taken).  Near and far, old and newer, I’m more grateful than I can express for those people who support, love, and endure me.  I’m no picnic to be close to, I know that. Thank you.  You enrich my life more than I can express.

Quotes. Since sixth grade I have been filling in quote books, writing down lines and images and phrases that touch something deep and often inchoate inside of me.  I share some of my favorites here on Fridays.

Running. I have been a runner since high school, and as long as my joints permit, I’ll be out there, preferably as dawn breaks across the horizon, on the path that runs alongside the Charles River, watching my beloved Boston wake up.

Sports.  I did not play team sports as a child.  I was therefore unfamiliar with all the benefits of being on a team.  It’s a joy to watch Grace and Whit be a part of their respective soccer and hockey teams.

TeachersDaniKatrina. BrettneMr. Valhouli.  I have been richly blessed with teachers, and I am hugely thankful for those named here and those not, whose wisdom, gentleness, and guidance have helped light my path.

Unable. to come up with “U.”

Vegetables.  Pity Matt, because a standard meal around these parts consists of creamed leeks and a baked sweet potato.  Or a tray of roasted root vegetables that were in the vegetable drawer.  Or half an avocado mashed on toast. A fancy cook I am not.  Further evidence that children are who they are from day one: Grace wants to be a vegetarian and eats everything under the sun (though very little meat and almost no dairy).  Whit will only eat meat, carbs, dairy, and greens.  Kale, spinach, lettuce: great.  Any other vegetable or fruit: no thank you.  He’s peculiar, my boy.

Worry.  I do it.  Way too much.

Xylem. We did a cool science experiment this year where we put white flowers in water with food coloring and watched the different colors spread across the petals.  I believe the xylem were involved here.

Years. Flying by too quickly. In my mind lately, I’ve been hearing: “There are years that ask questions and years that answer.” – Zora Neale Hurston.

Zinnia. Flowers that remind me of my grandmother Nana and of my dear friend Hadley.

I was inspired to revisit my own Alphabet by the list on The Quivering Pen that Dani Shapiro shared last week.

The HerStories Project

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My friends are vitally important to me.  I’ve written about them ad nauseum, from examination of which points in life are the most fertile for making friends to love letters to my sister, my first friend.  I write less about the messy moments in my friendships, but rest assured, I have those too.

I am both delighted and honored to be a part of the HerStories Project.  My essay, A Friendship Forged in the Crucible, about the “friend who walked beside me through some of the most difficult months of my life,” was published on the site and is now included in the book, The HerStories Project: Women Explore the Joy, Pain, and Power of Female Friendships which is released today.

Female friendship is a topic of great interest to me.  Friendship between women contains infinite textures, heartache and deep affection, identification and separation.  Through the prism of friendship, we can see love in most of its grand and many-colored manifestations.  This book explores this fertile and varied terrain with honesty and humor.  I loved every essay.  This would make a great holiday present.  I hope you will check this wonderful anthology out at the link below.

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