“Why do all the good things go so fast and the bad stuff takes so long?”
Grace asked on our last night in Paris. Oh, dear girl, I don’t know. I blinked back tears.
We just got back from a week in Paris. Years ago I wrote about my dedication to do everything in my power to make sure my children see the world. We aren’t having the adventurous childhood that I was fortunate to have – living in three separate countries by the age of 12 and seeing more of Europe than I can possibly remember. No, we are staying put. I’m the unadventurous one. But I do want Grace and Whit to understand that the world is large, and shining, and complicated, and thus to see that they are a very, very small part of it. We’ve been incredibly lucky so far with trips to Jerusalem, Washington DC, the Galapagos, and now Paris. We are not through with our exploration, that is for sure. Watching Grace and Whit’s eyes light up when they experience something new is one of my life’s great pleasures.
Watching that in Paris was particularly poignant, because it occurred within layers of my own memory, and with my own parents watching. We lived in Paris for four years when I was a small child (ages 3 to 7). Last week, I often felt like I could sense the child me standing on the street corners. We wandered past the door of our first apartment, played in the park that had been my sister’s and my favorite, and walked through Metro stops whose names I recall singing as a child.
I lived in Paris during the years that childhood memories solidify, like a boat emerging out of fog. Gradually and then without question. At 3, I remember very little. Our first apartment is almost entirely lost to me, other than the evocative street name where it was and the long chain we pulled to flush the toilet. By 6, before we left, I remember much more. Still, I was surprised by how much came back to me last week. I was surrounded by faint recollections as we walked the streets, almost more like sense memories than specific ones. Even at the level of language, words I had no idea I remembered came to my lips. I understood far more of the conversations around me than I expected.
The photo above captures one of the moments where the past nudged into the present, folded like an accordion, and I felt dizzy. I have many memories of playing in the Jardin Luxembourg with my sister, some vivid, some vague. I also have pictures of us standing along those specific trees (probably at this very time of year) And yet last week it was I who was the mother, suddenly, already almost a decade older than my own mother was when she watched her American children (so much smaller than my own American children) running down the aisles between the trees and shrieking with laughter.
This time, I watched Grace and Whit run. I pulled my coat around me tighter, glanced over at Matt, walking next to me, and tipped my face up to the blue-gray sky. We passed the carousel where, as a child, I held a stick and tried to grab the brass ring, covered up now for the day. Oh, time. Oh, life. It never ceases to take my breath away.
Sharing Paris is always good, even better with your children. I’m so glad you had a great trip. Je suis jaloux!!
Oh Lindsey, those last lines, that photograph of the carousel gave me chills. The accordion of our lives comes together when we have children. It’s such a surreal and bittersweet feeling, to me. I love that you and your family travel so broadly and to such fascinating places. We’ve stayed put for now, but I hope to one day do the same. Paris is beautiful and mysterious and even more so with your fragments of memories attached. My mother took me on a solo trip to London once, before she became ill, and it meant so much. I’ve hung onto those memories for years and hope to one day feel the accordion fold there with my daughter.
Beautiful. I agree wholeheartedly: watching our children’s eyes shine with delight as they discover something new is one of the greatest privileges in this life. So glad you had a wonderful trip to Paris, Lindsey! xoxo
Honest to goodness, I think Grace’s wonderment is Eric’s Philosophy Dept. thesis topic. What’s the deal with time, anyhow? That’s about as much as I understand of what he’s up to, in any case. I’ll let you know if he has any answers to life’s persistent questions…
And again, I suspect, I point you to E.B. White’s amazing essay, “Once More to the Lake.” It’s about his return to the summers of his childhood, with his young son in tow. He describes perfectly that feeling of not knowing whether you’re the youngster by your side, or the grownup in your pants. It’s an amazing read.
“This time, I watched Grace and Whit run. I pulled my coat around me tighter, glanced over at Matt, walking next to me, and tipped my face up to the blue-gray sky. We passed the carousel where, as a child, I held a stick and tried to grab the brass ring, covered up now for the day. Oh, time. Oh, life. It never ceases to take my breath away.”
Love this, Lindsey.
So happy you were able to come full circle in Paris. What a joy it must have been to walk the familiar streets with your darlings. Such a lovely post. xox
What a magical sounding trip…
Magnificent! I love how you describe time as an accordion, and the description of your memories of Paris, from early childhood. Beautiful and inspiring, as always.
Lovely, all of it, Lindsey. Memory and present day blending into a kaleidoscope of treasures for you and your family.
It is magical to share a place that you loved with your children. Thank you for sharing! Paris is one of my favorites.
Oh my goodness, this makes me want to hop a plane to Paris right now. Whenever I think about a specific time in childhood and realize that I am now older than my own mother was at that point, well, that is when time might baffle me most. And that last paragraph is gorgeousness.
xo