Whit turns two


So, Whit is two. Seems like yesterday we were at Verrill Farm at Grace’s very elaborate second birthday party. Poor Whit had to make do with Bread & Circus cupcakes and a few dear friends in the kitchen. Company was excellent, the planning a little less detailed than Grace’s bash. It’s amazing how differently I feel about them at age two. At two Grace felt like a little person – I re-read yesterday the letter I wrote to her on her second birthday, and she was clearly such a little personality already. Whit is clearly himself, of course, but he’s just so much less fully formed. I’m sure at least half of this is my own self wanting to keep my last baby a baby, and it may also be a boy/girl thing … it’s certainly driven in large part by how much less verbal he is than she was. But I still think of him as my baby – I still call him that, I still carry him most of the time, I seem unready for him to be launched into the life of his own independent childhood! I’m not aware of this unreadiness, by the way, intellectually, but when I reflect on the way I treat him, that is the emotion that seems to be manifest. It also seems odd to think that at Grace’s birthday I was six months pregnant with Whit – it’s hard to imagine being pregnant now.
Well, I guess it’s official: no more babies in the Mead-Russell house. It’s a cliche and it’s also powerfully true: the days are long, and the years are short.

Been a slow and sick week.

3 cases of strep in our house (possibly 4 if Daddy would go to the doctor)
1 ear infection
1 newly-minted terrible two-year-old
3 straight days when childcare providers cancelled due to their illnesses
102 highest fever Whit’s had so far
10000 number of times I have read Grace’s favorite Berenstain Bears book
1 Princeton baby (Will Forkner) born healthy and happy on Whit’s birthday – hooray!
1 mother with rapidly diminishing hold on her sanity

And, now, 10 days until I get to meet Ava in New York!


Back from an amazing weekend in Cleveland with Quincy, Dave, Thacher, and Ollie. Gracie had a blast hanging out with her godbrother Thach, and she always loves playing with dogs. I was reminded again why Quincy is the most amazing of friends. Picture above is FOURTEEN years ago (gulp!!??) and yet we are still the same … different of course in many ways (less hair, fewer pounds, less flannel, fewer baseball caps, more degrees, more wine) but the fundamentals are there. It’s so reassuring and comforting to know that. I wrote a full-on love letter to Quincy in the tabblo of our trip, so I won’t repeat it all here. Suffice it to say I feel so incredibly blessed to have a friend like her in my life. No matter how far we venture, we can always come back to a couch somewhere (Ivy 2nd floor TV room, Bay Head, Beacon Hill, the Regency Hotel, San Francisco, New York, Cleveland) and immediately slip into conversation about matters big and small, trivial and critical. I just wish we lived nearer so that we could share the day to day details of raising small children, juggling careers and marriages and occasional runs and driving station wagons. Yes, the minutiae of our lives! QB, I love you. xox

She’s done it again: here, Catherine Newman articulates everything I felt about the devastating Jim and Kati Kim story. Hilary and I both immediately fixated on the breastfeeding detail – the extraordinary power of the female body and its power to both give and sustain life.
I am crying just reading Catherine’s description of her life and its elegiac patina.
The same kind of gloss is shining on our lives right now, as we stand on the fulcrum between the known and the unknown. Tomorrow I give my notice at BCG and we launch headfirst into the next chapter (of which my job change is only one small part). Here we go.