I was rereading my blog archives the other day and found all the dedications back and forth between Michael Dorris and Louise Erdrich. They move me now as they always have. Last week I found myself flipping through a book of Dubus short stories and saw that Ashby had given it to me, with the inscription that I had taught him always to read the dedication in a book. I’m happy to have taught him that – the dedication is often one of my favorite parts of a book. For today, another set of dedications, these to and from Anne Sexton:

“To the one with her head out the window, drinking the rain.
To the one who said me a lullabye over the phone.
To the one who, divining love in this rocky terrain, has made it her own.”
George Starbuck, dedicating Bone Thoughts to Anne Sexton

“My beautiful kind Blessing, my discovered love … In the midst of everything you do you can know you are utterly loved … I survive by sitting and thinking of you.”
James Wright, to Anne Sexton

“I want to say a plain say of love, of my love … You are not the man of my dreams. You are my life.”
Anne Sexton, to Kayo Sexton (1963)

Last weekend with Gloria. We had so much fun. A special celebration of Glo and Jim on this eve of their one-year anniversary … I remember this night from last year so vividly! Wow. That has flown by.
Gloria is one of my oldest friends – it’s incredible to think we’ve known each other more than half our lives now. There are so many phases of life that she’s been a part of, from Exeter to Princeton to many different stages of our adult lives. It has been a particular joy to watch Gloria form real and close relationships with my children – Grace especially just adores her, and wept after she left. She follows Gloria around like a smitten puppy – in our Exeter 15th reunion class photo, Grace was smiling broadly from Gloria’s arms, nowhere near me.!


Happy birthday Grace! FIVE. Wow.

McCosh 50

McCosh 50. This week’s PAW has a great article with quotations (below) that came to life in McCosh 50. It is the building’s 100th anniversary. The article made me think about the many moments at Princeton that were in that space. I think often of how space must hold memory, somehow.
McCosh 50 was where much of Princeton’s academics started – I took both intro Econ classes there as well as Literature 141 with Victor Brombert. I still have some of the essays from that class: “The Mistress and the Intended: Two Women in Conrad’s Heart of Darkness,” “Tadzio as a Timeless Figure in Thomas Mann’s Death in Venice,” “Motion, Statis, and the Journey Towards Self-Discovery in Homo Faber.” How juvenile and young those titles seem! Ah, freshman year.
McCosh 50 was also the site of unforgettable moments, both happy and sad, with the love of my Princeton years.
I love the quotations that the PAW includes in their celebration. The breadth of topics, the combination of provocation and reflection, the variety of speakers all speak to what I consider some of Princeton’s essential qualities.

“There can be nothing more disruptive of our success in every great area of foreign policy than the impression … that we are prepared to sacrifice the traditional values of our civilization to our fears rather than defend our values with our faith.” – George Kennan ’25 speaking about foreign policy and the McCarthy era, March 1954

“The object of all science, whether natural science or psychology, is to coordinate our experiences and to bring them into a logical system.” – Albert Einstein, in his lectures on relativity, May 1921

“I say to you that in spite of the fact that I have all the reasons in the world to give up on humanity, I won’t … Despair is never an option.” – Elie Weisel, September 2005

“We began to prove about 20 years ago that women can do what men can do. Now it must be demonstrated that men can do what women can do.” – Gloria Steinem, December 1997

“It was like entering a dark mansion. You fumble around in a completely dark room for a couple of years. You bump into the furniture looking for the light switch. When you find it, you move to the next room.” – Andrew Wiles, on solving Fermat’s Final Theorem, March 1995

“I have yet to find a state constitution that begins, ‘We the some of the people…'” – Thurgood Marshall, February 1964

“There is everlasting repetition in human beings. Everything inside of everyone is endlessly different yet endlessly the same … The history of everyone is the history of anyone.” – Gertrude Stein, November 1934


The most marvelous visit with Gloria this weekend. It’s an immense treat to have a day and an evening to simply HANG OUT! The children fell deeper into their joint infatuation with Aunt Glo. More details to come, but this cartoon is for you, Glo!!! We love you.