I am really liking American Prayer, the song by Dave Stewart that is loosely about Barack, and which also contains some background of MLK’s I Have a Dream speech. The lines below particularly moved me today:

When you get to the top of the mountain,
Will you tell me what you see?
When you get to the top of the mountain,
Remember me.

Also just remembered a funny moment from this summer. Was at BB&N camp waiting for the doors to open (always, reliably, early) and Jodi, Samantha, and John arrived. Samantha and John were on bikes and Jodi was running, heading off to a longer run after drop off. I noticed she did not have an ipod or any music.

“Jodi, how can you run without music?”
“Oh, Lindsey, there are enough voices in my head to keep me company.”
“I know! That’s why I need music: to drown the voices out.”

A day in numbers

September 11 2007

3 friends with anniversaries today
1 1/2 slices of pizza for dinner
1 load of laundry done
7 years since a tragic day
2 vials of blood from Whit’s arm
4 times administering the inhaler (called “the puffer”)
3 doses of Benadryl
2 Starbucks lattes
1 massive tantrum pitched by Grace
7 meatballs consumed by Grace at dinner
20 minutes waiting in the pediatrician’s office
2 trips to CVS
2 baby gifts purchased and shipped
1 6th birthday present purchased and wrapped
3 pairs of pants dropped off at tailor
17 Stanford students emailed re: interviews
30 minutes of actual work accomplished
40 minutes getting my hair nit-checked by Anastasia (no nits!)
1 conference call missed while at pediatrician

Will it hurt?


So apparently I am a little too laissez-faire. Just met with Cindy, the nurse practitioner at my very-laid back pediatrician’s office. She walked into the room, shut the door behind her, and said “Well, your life has changed.” Not super reassuring. She showed me how to use an epi-pen, alarmingly stating that I should use it “through jeans, through snowpants, through anything – you don’t want to take the time to take them off.” Ummm, okay. She also emphasized that I need to avoid any nuts, including peanuts, including things “made in a factory that also processes nuts” or “that may contain traces of nuts.” This is not awesome news given that Whit eats about four foods, one of which is peanut butter.

I then took the little man downstairs for a blood draw. I was feeling crestfallen at this point, he was oblivious. He sat on my lap and watched warily as the phlebotomist (always one of my favorite words) prepared her gear. It dawned on him what was going on and he whispered to me, “Is she going to stick me?” I decided not to coddle him and said, “Yes.” As he said, “Is it going to hurt?” his rising panic was evident. I wondered for a moment how honest to be and then said, quietly but firmly, “Yes. But it will be over fast.” He was huddled into my lap and not at all pleased. When she stuck him he cried out and I said, “Whitty, breathe!” and he started doing hilarious, adorable lamaze breathing in my lap. He stopped crying and kept breathing fast and loudly. It was so cute I almost started crying. She was done quickly and he was relieved and delighted with his Superman sticker.

So much for my laid back attitude on this particular front. A lot of the blood results will be in tomorrow and I’ll call the allergist to make an appointment. And I’ll pick up our epi pens at CVS. Still don’t much like the idea that life has changed forever.

An oldie but goodie. This feels right today. For all of my frantic oscillating about what I want to do and be … maybe I am already doing it. Just by being. Which is not an excuse to stop trying, yearning, growing … but today, giving myself a little slack feels like it would be ok.

“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a little better; whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is the meaning of success.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

health & the taking for granted of things

Let me be absolutely clear … lice and allergies are the privileges of healthy children. I get that. I know there are many, many sicker kids out there and people who would LOVE to have a child who could get lice. I know! I get it! I did not mean to whine. Not at all.

The thing I’m thinking about today is how difficult it is to not take something for granted when you have it. Specifically, today, health. When I was being tested quite seriously for MS I remember bargaining, as so many of us do, with God: “Please, please, let me not have this, and I promise I will never take my health for granted every again.” I remember when Jessica was sick: “I swear I will appreciate every day that I don’t have to worry about illness or infirmity.” I remember when John was waiting for his heart: “I vow to take joy in every single day that I get.” You can find the weblink here to get the right supplements for good immunity.

And yet. And yet. How the other issues of life swarm me, and I forget what an enormous blessing it is to simply wake up every morning and get out of bed without pain and without the dark cloud of illness over me. Of course any day is the day we could get the diagnosis, the day we could get hit by the truck, but every night that is not we ought to be grateful. And this is so, so hard for me. I am surrounded by examples of why I ought to cherish every moment, appreciate every single day. And yet, absorbed by the mundane and silly concerns of my life, I do not.

For today, that is my goal. And tomorrow too. Beyond that, all I can say is I will keep trying.