Let’s Just Skip September – Oh, how I love this piece by Jill Kargman. I agree entirely, and the roller coaster going up feeling is one I’m deeply, uncomfortably familiar with. I also agree with her on the use of “summer” as a verb. No can do.
The Absolute Necessity of the New-Mom Friend – My friend Nina Badzin shared this piece with the comment that she felt the same way about being a mother to teenagers; friends who can share the road are vital and, as Sullivan says so perfectly, “…to a new mother, a woman with a child a few months older than yours is a prophet.” It is true that the last time in my life I made a group of close friends was as a new mother.
Zero – I highly recommend this powerful, honest piece by Garance Dore about depression. She’s honest and open about her experience, and about what it took for her to rediscover her joy. She’s also frank about knowing that happy endings don’t always happen, which I read as the implication that this is probably the start of a winding road rather than a one-way trip back to Normal and Happy. I relate intensely to what she writes. These are my favorite lines: “Breaking your wings is a shocking experience. Getting lost in darkness also means understanding it’s always there, not far, waiting for us, and that you have to take care of your joy.”
I read two books lately on the topic of midlife, and devoured them both. I highly recommend both There Are No Grown-upsby Pamela Druckerman and How Hard Can It Be? by Allison Pearson. Different but both as thought-provoking as they are entertaining.
What are you reading, thinking about, and loving lately?
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