I found this today in my internet perambulations, and it is so right on with how I feel I just wanted to share it:

“…just please, please, please leave gaps in your shiny optimised parenting to get wrong and messy.
Teaching kids how to surf on the crest of chaos and anarchy, is one of the most useful life skills we can impart. Though we need to be free (and admittedly organised) enough to play; we cannot let the processes rather than their personhood become the goal.”